Okay, it was a lie by omission. Remember when I told you Mr. Judy asked “you know it’s snowing, right” when I told him I was running last Sunday? What I didn’t tell you was that he asked that question from Seattle. Because he was out visiting his mom.
I had a busy week of appointments and then everything imploded. Remember my sister was going on Monday to facilitate the aide change? Well she did. The same day the temporary aide got a call that his wife was in an accident and in the hospital. I really couldn’t come out until Wednesday (Mr. Judy came home about midnight Tuesday evening).
So here I still am: I’m my mom’s temporary aide & I’m not running. Even getting out for a walk can be tricky but I’m still managing a decent amount of steps daily., thanks in no small part to Hospice who managed to get someone out to shower my mom twice while I’ve been here.
I’m joining Kim @ Kimrunsonthefly and Deborah @ Confessionsofamotherrunner and a short and sweet update since there was no running.
Workouts update
- Monday: Yoga (35 min), Shoveling Snow (absolutely ST!)
- Tuesday: Yoga (20 min), Dogwalk
- Wednesday: Yoga (35 min), PB ST (25 min), short walk at Olana, Pilates (15 min)
- Thursday: Yoga (20 min), walks, Pilates (30 min)
- Friday: Yoga (20 min), walking inside & outside, Pilates (25 min)
- Saturday: Yoga (25 min), Walking
- Sunday: Yoga (20 min), hopefully some walking & Pilates later
Running Mileage: 0 (-11)
PB = Killer B
TM = Treadmill
WU = warmup
CD = cooldown
SB = Stationary Bike
Favorites of the week
At least I got my hair cut. Normally it looks great after, but since I had her cut it dry, it looks pretty normal, just shorter.
I stopped at Olana briefly on the way to my mom. We’d had roughly 6” of snow on Monday so it’s always a safe place to walk.
I had my annual on Monday, and I’d cleared about 2/3 of our large driveway right before it. Came home and finished it off. Then got the news about my mom.
God, I was already so exhausted! Luckily I’d made a big pot of quinoa and beans previously (yes, I actually enjoy that) but I still had to make some other stuff to bring with me. At least in Winter I don’t have to worry about food going bad on the trip down. #glasshalffull
ICYMI: I have two quick practices this week. Get fired up with me in less than 10 minutes here, Or take 15 minutes to deeply nurture yourself here. I encourage you to check out both! I’ve also got a longer Vlog with tips on easing depression and anxiety here.
Coming up on Friday: Probably nothing again. I’m gonna need some rest next week!
Chocolaterunsjudy 
Oh wow you really have had so many issues with the aides for your mom. I know it really is a lot of work both physically and mentally for you. I hope you get some help this week. Hang in there. You are a fabulous daughter
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I know, you can’t make this stuff up! I’m not so sure a fabulous daughter would feel as though she can’t wait to escape. 😊 Seriously it is tiring but as with most things not as bad as expected. Thank God for Hospice they really came through for us, too.
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Gosh, I’m sorry to read about the troubles with the aids. That definitely sounds stressful. I hope it gets sorted soon.
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As long as her regular aide comes back tomorrow (and I fully expect her to) I’ll be heading home. Just a freak thing.
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Not missing great running here. Cold snowy windy. And you are not training for races. Glass half full.
Hopefully weather will improve by the time you get home.
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It’s Winter so it’s expected that running will be hard. It’s tough when it’s not your choice for a break (and not the least bit restful either).
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You know I get what you’re going through and I hope your mom’s regular aide returns soon. I’m sorry you’re having to miss runs and other workouts while at your mom’s place. It’s hard and just stinks whichever way we look at it.
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Thanks to Hospice & my mom’s activities I’ve actually been able to get out for a walk everyday — even a brief one in sleeting rain a couple of days ago. 🤣
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Oh wow you’re a total trooper to step up and take care of your mom. I know that struggle for a good aide is real. I’m glad you’ve at least been able to get out for walks! Ugh on the snow. We’ve escaped most of it so far but our days are numbered.
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Well what are you supposed to do? I feel sorry for the poor guy. We’ll never know what happened but I hope she makes a full recovery.
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Oh, what a bummer. But, it is what it is. I’ll tell you this- as you know, there will come a time when your mom will no longer be here, and I PROMISE you’ll never think “Wow, I really wish I had spent less time with her.” Running will be there for you next week… or the week after. It will all work out!
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The woman she plays bridge with that had COVID? She’s 99. 🤣 But yes, you’re right. She’s still pretty independent & yet requires a lot of help at the same time.
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Sending hugs to you and your family. My MIL starts hospice care this week and it’s hard.
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I’m so sorry Michelle. Hugs back to you. My mom we went on Hospice about a year ago — at the time we didn’t think she had long to live but here we are. She doesn’t have a terminal illness (unless you count old age), but she’s in hear failure, diabetic, & used to have high BP. My Dad was on Hospice, but a much shorter amount of time. I have no words for how wonderful Hospice is.
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Thank you for your kind words. She has stage 4 cancer so it shouldn’t be too long. Hard to see her suffer.
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That is so hard. I’m so sorry.
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Thanks Judy. Hard to see our loved ones suffer.
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Oh Judy, I’m so sorry for the continued issues with getting help for your mom. A good friend is going through a similar situation with her parents in Florida (she flew down with them over a week ago, to get them situated for the winter…then her mom fell and needed surgery). I hope things get worked out and you’re able to get some rest and peace of mind.
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Sorry about the snafu with your mom’s aide. I hope it is resolved soon and you can go home. It is a tough time of year for unexpected travel.
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Luckily I didn’t have to drive through a snowstorm or freezing rain! As you can see it was a beautiful day when I came down.
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Oh your poor friend! Well the good news is I at least had privacy since I could use the aide’s room instead of sleeping on the couch. 😊
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I’m so sorry Judy! It’s been so difficult for you. What did you do with Bandit while you were at your mom’s? Did Mr Judy come home early? I’m glad you got some walks in. I’m sure the fresh air and natural light felt good.
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I went down on Wednesday afternoon; Mr. Judy got home midnight Tuesday, so it was hi & goodbye quickly. Yes, the fresh air always feels good! I’m unable to comment on your blog til I get home. So far yours is the only one that gave me problems (on my iPad).
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I can’t comment on my own blog on my iPad either, lol
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I used to be able to! So weird.
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Love the light pole shot
Sorry you’ve been struggling so much. All the love.
And yay, glass half full on food not spoling.
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Also glass half full that since there was no side, I could sleep in the bedroom. Not that I really got better sleep there but I did get privacy.
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So sorry to hear about the problems with your mom’s aides – and hearing that your mom needs hospice care. But hospice usually is a wonderful form of care, because it is such a different concept compared to other care options. I worked as a nurse in palliative care before moving to Ireland (and left my profession then). If it hadn’t been a regular hospital ward it’s possible I’d still be there. Before the hospital started cutdowns and whatnot, it was a lovely place to work and I still sometimes think of many of my patients.
I like how you count in shovelling snow as a workout! It certainly is hard work! My husband dug a large hole in our lawn this summer and his Fitbit started complaining about overdoing exercise 😀
I read about you having problems with commenting on someone’s blog from your iPad – I found that if you (temporarily) switch off “prevent cross-site tracking” in Safari, it will work, if the problem is that it doesn’t recognise you being logged in to Google or wp.com.
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Hospice is absolutely wonderful & I’m SO grateful to them. I couldn’t do it. After less than a week I’m SO ready to go home!
I’m heading home today, but thanks for the tip about the Safari setting!
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I’m so sorry that the aide saga continues 😦 I know it’s stressful and you just want your mom to have a good permanent aide. I am glad that you were still able to carve out some time for yourself last week.
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I am home! Exhausted but home. Her aide says she doesn’t need time off til June (we’ll see — seriously I don’t know how they do it, they work 24/7, 7 days a week).
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I wish it wasn’t so hard to get good, consistent care for your mom. It can be so hard. Sending so much love.
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I wish it weren’t too, but this was truly just a freak set of circumstances. I don’t know how the aides do it — it completely exhausted me (not sleeping well while there was a big part of that). I’m incredibly grateful to the aides. Even though she’s really doing so well considering her age, it’s very clear she can’t live on her own.
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I’m really sorry for all the continued issues with your mom’s aides. So much stress for you! I really hope you’re able to get a break soon!
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Well I did survive it! Fingers crossed for no more drama in that department. Thanks Michelle!
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That’s really difficult, I’m so sorry. I’m glad Hospice were able to help you. And you ARE a good daughter and person – you care for your mum and you’re honest to us here so you can express yourself and do self-care.
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Luckily aside from my husband my family doesn’t read my blog. 😊
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I’ll echo what others have said here; you may not feel like a fabulous daughter, but you are, even on the days you want to escape. So sorry you have had so much trouble with your aides but glad you were able to get help from Hospice and even some walks in.
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