5 Things in Life Lately

My mother had surgery 2 weeks ago, for those that don’t know. She is 88 years old. The surgery was necessary, and was only supposed to be an overnight in the hospital and a week of recovery.

Yeah, not so much.

Let’s just say the past couple of weeks have required me to spend a lot of time at my parents, which is 90 miles away from me, which required Mr. Judy to take some extra vacation time and work from home so he could take care of our furkids. There has been very little sleep, a ton of stress, and hopefully the final realization from my mother that they can no longer live in the house I grew up in.

So I’m going a little rogue this Friday with the Friday Five  from Cynthia from You Signed Up for What?, Courtney from Eat Pray Run DC, and Mar from Mar on the Run,  and just sharing five thoughts about the last couple of weeks.

In case you missed it, because I never had time to actually link it up with the Wednesday Word linkup, I also posted about the plethora of benefits I get from running this week.

A thoughtful gesture

Mr. Judy is a keeper
I’ve kept him for almost 31 years so far; I guess I’ll keep him around a while. He sent my mom flowers (without me asking him to), and they definitely perked her up.
I came home to the bouquet of roses (already in the vase!) yesterday afternoon, and he cooked me dinner.

But I expected to come home to Bandit sleeping in our bed
I know Mr. Judy pretty well. I am the disciplinarian in the family. He is the softie. All of our dogs have been rescues, and all of them have slept in their crate their first year with us. I’ve written a lot about how important crate training is in the early days with Bandit.

My reasoning is this: even with a well adjusted dog, you just never know when they may have to spend some time in a crate. If they are familiar with it, if you make it a good experience, then if that day comes, they won’t freak out.

Bandit has come a long way, but two months is not long enough.

My husband told me he was laying on our chaise downstairs with Lola, and had Bandit on the bed on the floor. No problem. I seriously expected to come home and find out they’d all been sleeping together in the bed, and Mr. Judy confessed he thought about it — probably knew I’d kill him if he did it!

Have I hit bottom yet?
Seriously, every time I think things can’t get any worse, they do. I haven’t slept well in like a million years. I was confined to my parents house until the aid come because both my parents are at risk to fall. Indeed, my father did fall once while I was there; no one is quite sure what happened, despite there being 5 adults in various parts of the house, no one saw it happen and my dad wasn’t really clear on what happened.

Thankfully it wasn’t serious.

In addition to all that, I screwed up big time. I was giving my mom one of her meds every other day. I thought I was so careful: I drew up a chart, Mr. Judy created an even better one the weekend I was home, I double checked it with the discharge papers from the hospital and the pill bottles.

She was supposed to get it daily.

So my mom fell again that weekend I was gone, totally freaking out my sister, who thought she was screwing up.

Strengthening my lower legs

Shin Tekk
If you don’t follow me on Instagram, you didn’t see my photo of the Shin Tekk (not an affiliate link). They approached me about reviewing the Shin Tekk. I’ve only been using it a couple of weeks, and I am not ready to review it yet, but I must say my ankle seems to be normal again.

I also can’t say that it’s because of the Shin Tekk yet, but it definitely seems to have made a big difference.

I was provided with the Shin Tekk free for review purposes, but I am not associated with the company.

Running is my therapy — even the bad runs!

I’ve been using this hashtag a lot lately. It’s soooo true. It’s been very challenging to get my runs in in the last few weeks, and even when I do, even when they’re miserable (and a few have been), I feel so much better afterwards.

I don’t know what the future holds, although I know for certain that there will be a lot more trips to my folks, and a lot of time trying to find the right situation for them going forward.

Talk to me. Leave a comment or answer a question:

What gadget really helps prevent/heal injury for you?

How do you destress, besides running?

What was the last sweet thing your partner did for you?

20 thoughts on “5 Things in Life Lately

  1. Judy, sending you hugs! I’ve been looking back at my blog posts from a year ago, and memories are popping up on Facebook; that was the time that Kayla was sick and in the hospital a lot and it was a really difficult time, so I can empathize with what you’re going through right now. I never wanted to take time away from the hospital or Kayla to get in runs; I know it would have helped, but I just couldn’t do it. I was so glad to have running back in my life once Kayla went into remission. Good luck with everything! I’m sending lots of positive energy your way! ❤

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    1. I was able to run when my mom was in the hospital, a little, because my dad doesn’t get moving early in the morning, really not til almost midday.

      In this case, by the time I got there, too, it was not a life or death situation as you were facing.

      For me, though, I HAVE to exercise when I can. I couldn’t always do it, certainly not anything like I’m used to, but I just need it.

      Basically I was running at crazy hours (for me) when I could to squeeze it in, and it always helped.

      I thought 2015 was a bad year. 😦 Little did I know the curveballs 2016 would decide to throw at me . . .


    1. He has his moments for sure. 🙂

      I just hope he embraces my takeaway — he has to take better care of himself. I know he’s been making small steps in the right direction, and that’s the way to do it, but it’s so horrible to see my parents this way and I don’t want that to happen to us!


  2. The parent thing is hard, I know. On Wednesday I took my mom to the hospital for a GI bleed and she refused treatment, signing out AMA. Frustrating. I hope you get your parents situated soon, for your sake and sanity. Happy to hear Bandit is coming along!!

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      1. I guess she’s fine, but OMG, I’m pulling my hair out. I just have to let it go as she’s competent to make her own decisions. I told her if she died, no way was I going to feel guilty as she’s being so stubborn, lol.

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      2. Oh, you don’t have to talk to me about stubborn Paula! And I’m sure you will feel guilty, but what can you do? I really feel for you.

        Part of my problem is it’s not just my mom; my mom is basically my dad’s caretaker and therefore it was taking care of both of them.

        Thank God I have siblings, but we are all hampered by something: my brother lives on the west coast, my sister is nearby but works (and is finally getting more hours that she’s been requesting for years, of course) & injured herself.

        It’s such a fine line to respect their wishes, give them their dignity, AND make sure they’re ok. Big hugs, Paula.

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  3. I destress by doing puzzles. Keeps me focused on something else besides what is stressing me. My husband is very thoughtful, I don’t have to ask him to do much. I am Lucky.
    Hang in there Judy !

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    1. You know, on my previous Kindle I used to play word games at night. Unfortunately my present one doesn’t have any available for it. 😦

      I really enjoyed them — I was addicted! They weren’t super tough, but I knew they were good to do & they did help me relax!


  4. Mr. Judy is such a keeper! My hubs works out of the home, he usually texts me pictures of flowers from our yard when he’s thinking of me. Other than running I like a creative outlet… making jewelry, painting, coloring in those adult coloring books (addictive).

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    1. Oh, that is so sweet of your husband; I love it!

      I used to paint, but haven’t taken up my paintbrushes again since we moved here 7 yrs ago. Mr. Judy doesn’t like the space they take, but I hope someday I do paint again.

      Now I run instead of paint . . .


  5. Caring for your parents can be so hard – mentally, physically, and emotionally. It’s great that Mr. J is supporting you and not being completely overrun by the dogs! My therapy is running in the morning and having a beer at night. 😛

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    1. Yup, it is all those things.

      Actually he said they all did great while I was gone. We’ve been moving Bandit around off leash & Mr. Judy said that went well while I was gone, but he’s having a little trouble now I’m home because Bandit has a tendency to try to get to me, which is not necessarily where we want him to go.

      I destress through running, yoga, a sauna (been too long!) and baking. 🙂


    1. I feel you right back. I haven’t really shared that much of what is going on with my parents, but yes, I feel sandwiched too between that situation and my parents.

      We used to almost always take the dogs with us when we went down, but I know as far as he has come, Bandit isn’t ready for that & even Lola would probably be a danger to them – or visa versa – because she’d be underfoot. Which is sad, my parents love animals.

      I was just saying to Mr. Judy last night that there has GOT to be a way to age better. It’s at the root of my trying to live healthy.


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