Compassion: March 2022

We must learn to regard people less in the light of what they do or omit to do, and more in the light of what they suffer. — Dietrich Bonhoeffer

I continue to work on my compassion. Elderly people can be (but not always are) very self centered. They don’t realize when they tell you last minute they need something that it’s taking a stressful day and adding more stress to it. They are unhappy because they cannot do these small things for themselves any more. They are unhappy that they have to rely on others when they’ve been self sufficient for most of their lives. They are unhappy they have to ask.

Last week, for instance, my mom asked my sister to ask me to get a couple of things for her the night before I visited, which meant making not one, but two stops on the way down. This shouldn’t bother me, of course, but after months of getting last minute requests like this, sometimes it can be aggravating — no matter how much you love the askee.

I continue to work on my compassion, though, so I did it. I didn’t complain, except to Mr. Judy, just a little. The truth was it wasn’t really that big a burden. Sometimes we get a little too self centered too (or just worn down).

I also showed compassion to my body, by balancing the treats with healthy food, and not asking too much of it when it said it needed a rest.

So how did March go? Let’s see!

Getting in scheduled runs
I did pretty good. Granted there were 2 weeks towards the end of the month with only two runs, but I’m fine with that. Better less runs than an extended illness.

Grade Earned:  A-

Dynamic Warmup
I’d like to say the Spring like weather has made the dynamic warmups easy, but alas Spring is still waiting. We’ve had some very Winter-like weather. I’ve still done my warmups. Sometimes that 10 minute warmup ride (yes, I ride to warm up for a run — works for me) gets shortened to 5 minutes.

Grade Earned: A

Foam Rolling
I notice a difference when I foam roll, so that’s why I continue to do it. I have a shorter routine I do on the days I don’t run, and a longer one on the day after a run (that’s one of the bonuses to Spring into Action, by the way — you can only get access to that video by signing up here). I stay pretty consistent with my routine until I learn a new method — then if it works, I share it.

Grade Earned: A

I thought the cookie cake was enough. Didn’t stop me from eating a slice of cookie cake AND basically a whole brownie (I sampled the different varieties). No regrets, though!

Nutrition
There were many treats in March: oh so many for my mom’s birthday. Cookie cake and of course my sister had to bring brownies, too. Never let it be said the Lester family doesn’t have enough dessert. Vacation treats. I tried to balance it all with healthy eating as much as possible.

Grade Earned: A

Hiking is one of my favorite ways to cross train!

Cross Training
Strength training took a hit towards the end of the month, too, but it was the right decision for me. I’m still working those muscles. Lots of Yoga, of course, and the little bits of stationary biking. Lots of dogwalks. We need to start hiking again, if Spring weather would just show up and stay (some short hikes just squeezed in at the end of the month).

Grade Earned: A

I expect our bulbs to start blooming soon, especially with all the rain in the forecast. These were from DE!

March 2022  gets  . . . 
. . . an A. I indulged more than I should have at times, but I’ve really try to balance that out with healthy eating. I just need a bit more energy to get in more cooking and more mileage.

March Goals:

  • Run 3 x week. Y/N. Managed it about half the month.
  • ST 3 x week. Y/N.  Except the week I wasn’t feeling well.
  • Cardio/ST before 10 am on non-running days. Y/N.  Some days yes, some days not so much — but mainly because I knew I needed to rest more.
  • Continue to work on a new Spring challenge. Y. Yes! It’s live and you can sign up here (this gets you the bonuses; did I mention there’s bonuses, LOL?).
  • At least one real rest day a week. Y. I think, anyway. Between finishing Spring into Action, planning stuff for my mom’s birthday, prepping for our trip to DE in 2 days, and of course the usual life stuff — life was busy in March!
  • A short getaway. Y. When I saw some nice weather and found an AirBnB with a fenced in yard, I managed to convince Mr. Judy it was the right thing to do. Despite the limited time I am glad we did it! It also allowed us to get together with some of Mr. Judy’s family we hadn’t seen in a few years.
  • Continue to try to eat intuitively — unless the weight starts to creep up. Y. Still holding steady, which is great considering I indulged more than normal in March.

Which leads me to April Goals:

  • Run 3 x week. I personally believe that 3 x week will keep you in decent running shape.
  • ST 3 x week. I will settle for 2 x week if necessary. Hoping I can get to 3 x week in April consistently!
  • Cardio/ST before 10am on non-running days. Most of the time I do something, but there’s been a few days I just wanted to rest, so I did. I’m keeping it as a goal — but not a requirement.
  • Work on some future Yoga projects. Like a Summer Solstice practice, even trying to decide what I might want to offer at the beginning of 2023.
  • At least one real rest day a week. Always a goal. I have to help out at my moms a bit more than usual this month, but I will always try to get in a real rest day. It’s a work in progress.
  • A race? I have a few in mind. I don’t want to race so badly that I’m willing to race in a monsoon, though, so it will be a late signup for me. If it doesn’t happen, that’s okay too. If I do race, it will be very interesting to see what the finish time will be! Let’s just say I don’t have high expectations, and one of the “races” is really a fun run.
  • Begin to plan the next getaway. We know we want to visit our friends in ME again, and we’ve opened discussions on that. We can’t take Bandit with us (their home just really isn’t conducive for a dog — no fence, too many ticks) so we have to have a plan in place for him, too.
  • Continue to try to eat intuitively — unless the weight starts to creep up. After spending so much of my life counting calories, or macros, or points, it has been freeing not to do any of that the last few years. I have not gained back all the weight I’ve lost (for the third time), but a few pounds could stand to disappear. In general though I feel pretty good in my clothes, and that’s always a good benchmark!
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Linking up with Zenaida Arroyo and Kim @ Kookyrunner

This week I am also joining up with the new Runners’ Roundup linkup.

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29 thoughts on “Compassion: March 2022

  1. Well done on your March goals, Judy!
    So exciting that you are thinking about signing up for a race. I find races so enjoyable – the excitement, seeing other runners and experiencing the vibe. I hope you will find some good ones!

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  2. Sounds you have everything under control. Another good month reaching your goals.

    I am just not goal oriented. Fly by the seat of my pants most days.

    You know how I feel about races. We are lucky in our area to have so many races and group run opportunities. I assume the fun one is the dog race. I wouldnt do that one but maybe we will run into each at some point.

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      1. As much as I hate run in the rain, I wouldn’t DNS because of weather and I hate to pay more for a race just because I wait until the last minute. We are all different in our need to race or not race at all.

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  3. A well deserved A for March Judy. I love what you share on Compassion. I need to practice more of that. The other day my dad asked me to drive him somewhere. He drives but I think on that day he just needed company. But it was quite a last minute request and I had a million and one things to do. So I was annoyed and I think he could hear it. But we had such a lovely time together on our drive. So I think I just need to pause sometimes and think of what it means for the other person even if it seems inconvenient to me at the time.

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    1. Your life is far busier than mine but yes, sometimes we think things that will be really time consuming just aren’t. Or sometimes it really just brightens someone else’s day & is worthwhile!

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  4. I think it was Ram Dass who said, “If you think you are so enlightened, spend a week with your parents.” That is the ultimate test! This experience is giving you the opportunity you wouldn’t otherwise have to work on your compassion. Sounds like you’re doing great- and you did great on your March goals. I agree that you can stay in shape running three times a week (although I’d like to do more) and incorporating strength and yoga. Good luck on your April goals! A race would be fun.

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    1. I think 4 x week makes it easier to increase mileage, but at the moment my body (and my schedule) doesn’t really like that.

      Hopefully you’ll get to the point when you’re running more what you want to as well!

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  5. Great job on your March goals. I know what you mean about compassion. It can be hard and sometimes you feel guilty for feeling stressed when it comes to helping others. I hope you’re able to find a moment to breathe amongst it all! Good luck on your goals for this month!

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  6. I am working, big time, on my compassion towards my mother. We’ve never had a strong mother-daughter relationship, but it is what it is. Now, I can see her getting more forgetful and needing more favors from my sister and me…and she’s not one to ask nicely or thank us afterwards. I think her generation has an “entitlement” mindset, LOL My dad is such a saint for putting up with her! Anyways, congrats on a great month!

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    1. I’m sorry that your relationship with your mom has been difficult, Kim. It sounds a lot like my sister & my mom.

      I actually do get along well with my mom — which doesn’t mean she doesn’t drive me nuts sometimes, LOL!

      Entitlement, yes. Which is weird, when you think about it, I don’t think we kids are the same. For instance when my brother was here back in the fall he was appalled that my mom would demand stuff with from the aide, with no please or thank you. He actually talked to her about that!

      My Dad was actually the difficult one. He was extremely narcissistic.

      Hugs, Kim, our parents can really trigger us!

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  7. Great month, Judy! I know exactly what you mean about compassion towards the elderly. I’ve been working on it for a few years. It isn’t easy but yet doable and manageable. I know it hasn’t been easy for my mother so I pick my battles.

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    1. My mom took in my grandmother at the end of her life, one of my grandfathers for a while. You’d think they’d be more sensitive to it, but I guess when you get to that age you either forget or you just want what you want.

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      1. Very true. I also think they tend to be very happy that they are unable to do the things they used to. My mom hasn’t had a stroke, but she still struggles with so many things. Can’t imagine how frustrating it really is.

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  8. Well done on those March goals! It can be hard to put ourselves in someone else’s shoes. And, it is hard to see our parents aging and get more and more incapable of doing things for themselves. I hope I can also have more compassion for myself when I get older. thanks for the reminder

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    1. I also hope to have more compassion to myself as I age, too. It’s very difficult not being able to do simple things you used to do so easily — like putting on jewelry, even (my mom has a bad palsy in both hands).

      I suppose it’s a lot different when it’s your turn, though.

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  9. Congrats on a fantastic month, you aced March! I definitely need to increase my compassion, especially self-compassion as sometimes I have way too high expectations of myself.

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  10. You had a really good March, Judy. It’s always best to listen to your body and cut back as needed.

    I am finding the need for compassion to be huge as my mom ages and my brother and I spend more time helping her from afar. I just keep reminding myself of everything she did for me when I was young and that certainly makes it easier.

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    1. I hear you. I’m grateful I’m not as far away as you are from your mom. I also remind myself of all the things my mom did for me. I was not an easy child. I was SO shy when I was very young some of her friends thought I was developmentally challenged.

      I was also a very sickly kid. And then there was swimming, flute lessons, Girl Scouts & more!

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  11. Awesome job on your March goals Judy!

    Compassion, while absolutely necessary, can be such a hard thing to practice. I definitely struggle with it sometimes, but like you said, once you step back and take a breath, it’s easier to find compassion, especially in a situation where you may want to complain.

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